In this article I’d love to start telling you that you can soar with the angels, flit around free like butterflies and go and be anything you want to be, but there are still things that may hold many people back. In many instances it would be like telling a chrysalis in a cocoon to fly, it will never be able to fly while it is still confined in the cocoon. So I feel a real need to continue encouraging you to sort yourselves out with the help of what I will be sharing in today’s article, although I understand that not everyone has a problem with the first category that I’m about to mention, I do believe that the vast majority of people can benefit from more understanding of the second category.
In the previous article I strongly suggested that we take ownership of any hurt or trauma that we had picked up as we journeyed through life and that is still affecting us. I said that when we have such issues we should acknowledge that we have such issues and deal with those issues.
The way I see it there are almost two levels of bondage that are relevant to our discussion;
Firstly, the more serious issues are some of the following and yes some of them are on the seedier side of life, but they need addressing sooner rather than later. They are things such as rape, molestation, divorce – your own and or your parents divorcing, family death, abortion, serious accidents and war to name a few. Even retrenchment and heavy stress may fall into this category. These experiences traumatize and scar you. Some people reach out for help and some attempt to deal with the hurts themselves. Still others go for help and come away not fully healed. I addressed some of the ramifications of these types of issues in my book “Freeing Your Mind”. Issues such as guilt and unforgiveness, and there are also many more such as bitterness and depression for instance. What we need to realize is that these things put one in serious bondage and therefore make it very difficult if not impossible to think positively. Most importantly for me to establish in the short little article is that we can be and should be set free from the bondages that these incidents cause.
So how do we do this? Well we need to get help. The severity of the incident, the amount of trauma experienced and the nature of the actual incident, will determine who would be the best person to help –psychiatrist, psychologist, life coach or counselor.
Secondly then, of course there are the Life Sentences that need dealing with. This is the main topic of my book and if you want to delve deeper into that subject, you are welcome to obtain your own copy through my website. To give you a shortened overview these are sub-conscious sentences that one way or another we have accepted as truth and now rule our lives. Often, because they are in the sub-conscious no matter how we try we cannot stay on a positive train of thought we can’t.
One of the readers of the book, related a story involving a “Life Sentence” that she had identified and had had ever since she was a little girl of about 8. While shopping for a dress with her great grand-mother they saw a prostitute wearing a red dress. She looked pretty to the child so she asked her great grand-mother if she could have a red dress. Obviously seeing the situation from different eyes she responded with a “No!” because “good women do not wear red”. Well what great grand-mother did not realize is that the little girls’ hair was red! Now the spare of the moment, flippant remark stuck with this little girl into women-hood. She was never quite sure if she was good or bad and consequently wore her red hair cropped short to avoid anyone thinking that she was bad. Isn’t that tragic? Just hearing about that story alone made it worthwhile to have written my book. If people can recognize and be set free from “Life Sentences” like that, and many others it is wonderful and marvelous.
We all have Life Sentences affecting us to a lesser or a greater degree and we need to identify them and eliminate them as soon as we possibly can. The book helps with that. In order to think more positively about yourself and others too, you need to identify as many “Life Sentences” as possible and eliminate the lock-hold they have on you and your thinking
Many people succeed to a measure despite having deep routed stuff affecting them. Some even use them as stepping stones, but I have seen much more success, much more freedom and much more positivity come with people identifying, acknowledging and dealing with these issues.
There is a wonderful world of adventure waiting for us. Let’s seize and experience it! Let us not let anything hold us back.
Let’s get to a place where it’s easy for us to be positive!